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“A promise is a promise: Time for action to end violence against women”.

“We must unite. Violence against women cannot be tolerated, in any form, in any context, in any circumstance, by any political leader or by any government.”
— Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon Continue reading “A promise is a promise: Time for action to end violence against women”.


THE ‘magic’ BEADS


I had this wonderful chat with one of my female friends  concerning BEADS and this is what she revealed to me:

ME: ok so generally, what can you say about beads

AKOS: I know beads are one thing that identify us as Africans generally.  You know you won’t find our beads the way they are in Afghanistan; they have something maybe similar yet different.  Ours is unique

ME: Unique in what sense

AKOS:  The style, what it stands for.

ME: ok, so to u, what is the importance of beads to the African or Ghanaian lady

AKOS: ok I can speak for myself.  It bonds me to Ghana. Wearing them makes me feel Ghanaian. It actually makes me feel whole too. Continue reading THE ‘magic’ BEADS




I am not a medical Practitioner and I was not trained in the health sector.  Under normal circumstance, I should be writing some articles on politics.  However there is this saying that the toad does not leap in the day time for nothing.  If you see the toad leaping in the day time, it means something is after its life.  Cervical cancer is currently one of the dangerous cancerous diseases that is snatching away the lives of a lot of women.   Though various female-oriented groups are stepping up the campaign on this particular issue, a lot of people are still either in the dark or are not interested altogether.  If you are a lady, spending ten minutes to read this can save you from years of suffering or from avoidable death.  Do not wait to join the “had I known” slogan.  I compiled this piece from some online sources to help you if you are a lady.


Cervical cancer is cancer that starts in the cervix, the lower part of the uterus (womb) that opens at the top of the vagina.


Almost all cervical cancers are caused by HPV (human papilloma virus). HPV is a common virus that is spread through sexual intercourse. There are many different types of HPV. Some strains lead to cervical cancer. (Other strains may cause genital warts, while others do not cause any problems at all.)

  Having sex at an early age

  Multiple sexual partners

  • Sexual partners who have multiple partners or who participate in high-risk sexual activities
  • Weakened immune system



Most of the time, early cervical cancer has no symptoms. Symptoms that may occur can include:

  • Abnormal vaginal bleeding between periods, after intercourse, or after menopause
  • Any bleeding after menopause
  • Continuous vaginal discharge, which may be pale, watery, pink, brown, bloody, or foul-smelling
  • Periods become heavier and last longer than usual

Symptoms of advanced cervical cancer may include:

  • Back pain
  • Bone fractures
  • Fatigue
  • Heavy bleeding from the vagina
  • Leaking of urine or faeces from the vagina
  • Leg pain
  • Loss of appetite
  • Pelvic pain
  • Single swollen leg
  • Weight loss


Why not!  Just seek help.

Treatment of cervical cancer depends on:

  • The stage of the cancer
  • The size and shape of the tumor
  • The woman’s age and general health
  • Her desire to have children in the future

Early cervical cancer can be cured by removing or destroying the precancerous or cancerous tissue. There are various surgical ways to do this without removing the uterus or damaging the cervix, so that a woman can still have children in the future.


If you can not abstain from sex altogether, Practicing safe sex (using condoms) also reduces your risk of HPV and other sexually transmitted diseases. HPV infection causes genital warts. These may be barely visible or several inches wide. If a woman sees warts on her partner’s genitals, she should avoid intercourse with that person.

To further reduce the risk of cervical cancer, women should limit their number of sexual partners and avoid partners who participate in high-risk sexual activities.   If you smoke, quit. Cigarette smoking is associated with an increased risk of cervical cancer.


For detailed information on cervical cancer, contact a medical  professional.  do you want someone you can have a heart-to-heart chat with concerning this issue,  just pick your phone and call this number  (+233)0246940409 . she is a top crusader for the eradication of cervical cancer.  Seek help now.



Credit:  PubMed Health.htm





Fear, anxiety, and insomnia hunt my lonely soul.
I live with a bleeding scar and in sorrow…
I feel devastated as I drown in tears of blood,
which witness my pain and stain my pillow.

You swore it wouldn’t happen again, yet you abused
and bruised my heart; and your presence is terror…
Your abuse is tearing my world apart.

Now on my own, I feel used under dark clouds.
– Why should I live with a bleeding scar?

Due to your abuse, I seek solace in alcohol.
I feel like I am walking on egg’s shell
and the painful memories I revive in strife.

Your abusive behavior causes health problems.
I am always in hospital just to fix a broken bone.
I’m too scared to share my story with the care givers.

You are only interested in jeopardizing my life.
Who will be my comforter? I’m tired of seeking refuge
at a friend’s and domestic violence shelter!

You never reciprocate the perfect love I show you…
You may need me some day, but no chance from me again.
I won’t continue to play the game your way.



I have a soft spot for women and that has motivated me to do a number of literary pieces on issues that affect women.  Let’s roll the ladies corner dice now.

One question that I used to ask myself was the obsession with breast among both men and women.    Men seem to be so much in love with breast even more than the women who carry those breast.  When you are a woman who is less endowed in terms of breast in our part of the world, woe unto you.  No wonder, women of late are paying particular attention to their breasts.  One current trend today is the pushed-up breast with oil or lotion or whatever smeared all over it.  They claim it is used to attract men.  As to if that is the best means of attracting men, we will leave that for another day.

My main concern is about how a lot of women are dying through what they do not know.  Breast cancer and cervical cancer are two dangerous cankers killing our lovely women worldwide.  My dear women, don’t wait till it is too late to salvage your life.  Have you thought of how life will be for you with just one breast, and the other one cut off?  Do you just pay attention to how you can make your breast attractive to men?  Think about the long term maintenance of the breast too.

The big question is have you examined your breast today?  Breast self-examination is one of the best means of early diagnosis of signs of breast cancer. It can save you a lot.  If you don’t do it, start right now. Don’t wait till tomorrow.  It might be too late.

If you are a lady out there who does not know how to carry out the breast self-examination, just follow the steps below.

Step 1: Begin by looking at your breasts in the mirror with your shoulders straight and your arms on your hips.

Here’s what you should look for:

  • Breasts that are their usual size, shape, and colour
  • Breasts that are evenly shaped without visible distortion or swelling

If you see any of the following changes, bring them to your doctor’s attention:

  • Dimpling, puckering, or bulging of the skin
  • A nipple that has changed position or an inverted nipple (pushed inward instead of sticking out)
  • Redness, soreness, rash, or swelling

Step 2: Now, raise your arms and look for the same changes.

Step 3: While you’re at the mirror, look for any signs of fluid coming out of one or both nipples (this could be a watery, milky, or yellow fluid or blood).

Step 4: Next, feel your breasts while lying down, using your right hand to feel your left breast and then your left hand to feel your right breast. Use a firm, smooth touch with the first few finger pads of your hand, keeping the fingers flat and together. Use a circular motion, about the size of a quarter.

Cover the entire breast from top to bottom, side to side — from your collarbone to the top of your abdomen, and from your armpit to your cleavage.

Follow a pattern to be sure that you cover the whole breast. You can begin at the nipple, moving in larger and larger circles until you reach the outer edge of the breast. You can also move your fingers up and down vertically, in rows, as if you were mowing a lawn. This up-and-down approach seems to work best for most women. Be sure to feel all the tissue from the front to the back of your breasts: for the skin and tissue just beneath, use light pressure; use medium pressure for tissue in the middle of your breasts; use firm pressure for the deep tissue in the back. When you’ve reached the deep tissue, you should be able to feel down to your ribcage.

Step 5: Finally, feel your breasts while you are standing or sitting. Many women find that the easiest way to feel their breasts is when their skin is wet and slippery, so they like to do this step in the shower. Cover your entire breast, using the same hand movements described in Step 4.

Hope you are good to start your own breast examination now.  You can have a look at the attached video for further help.

NB:  If after all the steps above and the video, you still can’t find your way around it, just inbox me.  I could be of immense help.  Your comments are invited but do not forget to start now.